Child Custody Arrangements: How to protect your children

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1/16/20247 min read

When families undergo the challenging process of separation, divorce, or any other situation that causes a split between the parents, safeguarding the well-being of children automatically becomes the first priority. 

In that regard, the first step in protecting your children is understanding child custody arrangements and the legal process revolving around these arrangements. In this blog, we'll explore how to navigate child custody arrangements to create a secure and nurturing environment for your children.

Understanding Child Custody Arrangements

When considering child custody, it is important to familiarise yourself with the concept of child custody arrangements as a whole. The following sections will help you establish a sense of the framework that provides the foundation for child custody battles in the UK. 

Two Main Types of Child Custody Arrangements

There are two main types of child custody arrangements:

Physical Custody

Physical custody refers to where a child primarily lives in the aftermath of parental separation or divorce. It dictates the living arrangements and visitation schedule between the child and the noncustodial parent. 

Legal Custody

Legal custody is primarily related to the authority and responsibility granted to a parent to make important decisions in a child's life. These decisions include matters such as education, healthcare, religious upbringing, and overall welfare. In legal custody arrangements, a parent or both parents may hold the right to participate in the decision-making process. 

Deciding Between Joint and Sole Custody

Both physical and legal child custody can be either a joint or a sole arrangement. Each of these carries a distinct set of rights and responsibilities, which is why it is imperative to understand what they entail:

Joint Custody

Joint custody, also known as shared custody or shared parenting, is a custody arrangement where both parents share the legal rights and responsibilities of raising their child. This includes making decisions about the child's general welfare. 

Joint Physical Custody

Joint physical custody involves both parents sharing significant and roughly equal time with the child. This arrangement aims to provide the child with ongoing and meaningful contact with both parents. 

Joint Legal Custody

Joint legal custody gives both parents the authority to participate in major decisions regarding the child's life, including education, healthcare, and religious upbringing. This arrangement emphasises shared responsibility and requires parents to collaborate effectively, even if they do not share physical custody.

Sole Custody

Sole custody means one parent has exclusive responsibility for the child's upbringing, making major decisions without requiring input from the other parent. The child primarily resides with the custodial parent, and while the noncustodial parent may have visitation rights, their involvement in day-to-day matters is limited.

Sole Physical Custody

Sole physical custody grants one parent the primary responsibility for the child's residence and day-to-day care. The noncustodial parent typically has visitation rights, but the child resides primarily with the custodial parent. 

Sole Legal Custody

Sole legal custody grants one parent the exclusive right to make significant decisions for the child. This parent has the authority to determine the child's upbringing without requiring input from the other parent. 

Which one is a better option for you?

Determining whether joint or sole custody is a better option depends on the unique dynamics of your family. Joint custody, whether physical or legal, can foster shared responsibility and maintain both parents' involvement. This option works well when parents can communicate effectively and prioritize the child's well-being despite their divorce or separation. On the other hand, sole custody might be suitable in situations where cooperation is challenging, and a clear decision-making structure is needed. Consider factors like geographical proximity, the ability to collaborate, and the child's best interests when deciding which arrangement aligns best with your circumstances. 

Child Custody - The Legal Process Explained

In the UK, when it comes to family matters involving children in England and Wales, the legal proceedings take place in the Family Court. Child-related cases are dealt with separately, aiming to encourage parents to reach agreements on child arrangements outside of the courtroom. Judges prefer parents to decide what's best for their children rather than the court making those decisions.

If parents can reach an agreement with each other despite divorce or separation, it is advisable to create a parenting plan, which outlines arrangements for residence and contact. This helps avoid the need for court intervention.

However, if an agreement cannot be reached, one of the following routes can be taken:

1.    Child Arrangements Order: This is a court order that specifies arrangements for where a child will live, who they will have contact with, and other aspects of their upbringing.

2.    Prohibited Steps Order or Specific Issue Order: Depending on the circumstances, additional court orders may be required. A Prohibited Steps Order can restrict a parent from taking certain actions, while a Specific Issue Order addresses a particular concern or decision regarding the child.

It's essential to note that the process can be halted at any point if an agreement is reached between the parents. Once an agreement is reached, it can be formalized and made legally binding through a Consent Order.

The Step-by-Step Process

This is what the child custody process will look like for you, step-by-step:

·       Step 1: A mediation meeting to explore possible resolution options.

Before you officially seek a court order for child custody, you are required to attend a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM). This meeting will involve a family mediator who will help you consider options to potentially resolve issues without going to court (also known as alternate dispute resolution or “ADR”). 

If none of the alternatives are suitable for your situation or if your attempt at ADR fails, the mediator will provide you a form with his signature, which will serve as an indication to the court that you can now formally make your application for a court order regarding your child’s custody. 

·       Step 2: Make an application to formalise the process. 

Once you decide to apply for a court order, you will have to submit an application to the court along with a fee of approximately £200, either personally or through your solicitor. The court, where the case is filed, can provide more information on the application process. 

After receiving the application, the court sets a date for the first hearing, typically scheduled approximately four weeks after the application is submitted. To ensure both parents are informed about the case, a process called service is initiated at least 14 days before the hearing. This involves notifying the other parent about the proceedings, providing them with adequate time to prepare for the upcoming hearing.

·       Step 3: A phone call with Cafcass.

Next, the Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Services (Cafcass) comes into the picture. After the application, you and the other parent will have a separate phone call each with Cafcass officers, who are qualified social workers. 

The purpose of this call is for Cafcass to gather all the relevant information about the situation at hand and as such, will cover various aspects. You should expect to answer questions about your objectives for the child custody and residence and contact arrangements. You can also utilize this phone call to address any concerns or queries you have, and it will enable you to gain more clarity about the custody battle. 

·       Step 4: Navigating the First Hearing and Dispute Resolution Appointment (FHDRA) 

The first hearing is a forum for identifying and addressing the issues between parents, with the aim of finding an amicable resolution. This hearing is likely to last several hours, and is completely private with only the concerned parents, their solicitors, the judge, and the Cafcass officer present.

If, during the hearing, you and the other parent manage to come to an agreement and there are no welfare concerns raised by Cafcass, the judge will grant final orders, concluding the court process at this stage. However, if an agreement is not reached, the judge may issue a Prohibited Steps Order or Specific Issue Order, especially for time-sensitive matters such as child abuse. 

·       Step 5: Dispute Resolution Appointment (DRA) for forced resolution discussions

Considerably shorter than the first hearing, the DRA involves the judge inviting both parents to provide a concise summary supporting their case and reviews the prepared evidence. The necessary evidence may encompass various documents such as family records, results of drug and alcohol tests, and social work reports (referred to as S7 reports). Then, the judge will collaborate with both you and the other parent formulate an order that is agreeable to both parties. 

On occasions when an agreement is reached, the judge may issue a Child Arrangements Order, concluding the case. However, more commonly, the judge may find that there is insufficient information or that a parent disputes the evidence presented. In such instances, the case continues its course, moving towards a final hearing.

·       Step 6: Final hearing.

The final hearing is the decision phase, and it is at this stage that you will provide your testimony. You must beware of the fact that even though it isn’t called a “trial”, it is essentially one. Everyone involved, including social workers and experts will present evidence before the judge. Other relatives of the child such as grandparents, aunts, or uncles may also be called to testify.

The judge thoroughly reviews all the prior information in greater detail, along with any new evidence introduced. Final hearings, lasting as long as necessary, can extend over several days, especially when dealing with intricate evidence. Ultimately, the judge renders a decision and issues a Child Arrangements Order, potentially accompanied by a Prohibited Steps Order or Specific Issue Order.

However, please keep in mind that this final hearing is less likely to take place - most cases don’t make it to a final hearing because the court actively encourages parents to find common ground. 

For more information on the legal process, we advise you to do thorough research on divorce, separation, and child arrangements via official sources. 

Concluding Note

Remember, in the midst of legal battles and emotional turmoil, your child is at the heart of it all. Every decision you make, every document you file, is a step towards shaping their future. Stay resilient, keep your focus on what truly matters, and don't hesitate to seek support from professionals who can guide you through the maze of child custody proceedings. It's not just about winning a case; it's about ensuring a stable and loving environment for your little one. In this challenging journey, your dedication and commitment can be the anchor that steers your family towards a brighter tomorrow!

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